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if you have become part of my life till i m afraid to lose you , is that called dependence or love? definitely worth a thought..
p.s : not referring to myself or anyone... just caught this quote from the perfect cut 2...
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I think that emotional dependency will entail a degree of possessiveness, or needy-ness, or what most would call being "clingy". If a person is afraid to lose another, then he or she would have to examine on what grounds the fear of loss is based on. True love, I imagine, ought to wish for the best of the other person. In other words, even if you have lost that person, you would not be in despair because you still hope for the best for him or her. Wanting to possess another may or may not be a good thing, depending on the context. If you are the husband or father, of course possession is something natural, even in your duty to protect and preserve. Otherwise, possessiveness is merely needy-ness in disguise... that is, you yourself probably have not matured emotionally and is in desperate need for another person to fill the void within you.
I believe that giving and expecting nothing in return is one of the essences of true love. Your lives intertwine when you decide to commit to the relationship and put in the effort, in hopes of having a lasting relationship. Emotional dependency is, I feel, somewhat inevitable- its the degree of dependency that matters. Possessiveness is needy-ness, but needy-ness does not necessarily translate into possessiveness. I guess deep down, we do wish for someone special to share our lives with, and in some ways, instead of simply having that person to fill the void within you, why not having that person to better enrich one's life, to allow you to love not just him or her, but more importantly, to love you yourself.
Hey fellow Anonymous... hahaha :) When I mention "emotional dependency", I am actually referring to a specific condition where a person has (an almost pathological?) obsessional need for another. Which is also why I speak of the "void" within... in the sense that a person who is "emotionally dependent" would have an abnormal compulsion to physically, emotionally, psychologically and even sexually possess and manipulate the other party to cater to his or her needs... in the name of love.
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